I Am Not Looking for a Hookup!
Written by Stephen Ceplenski
There is a trend that has become increasingly more popular, and annoying, over the past two years. More and more guys are on sex/pickup sites stating:
- NO Hookups!
- Friends Only
- No Sex, just here to chat
This is like going into McDonalds and placing an order for Kung Pao Chicken and Wonton Soup. You can keep asking, but those items aren’t available at McDonalds, and everyone, including the staff, is going to look at you like you are crazy. Why is it that guys insist on pursuing love in all the wrong places? If they want to meet friends, people to chat with, or to date - THEN GO OUT! That’s right, take a shower, choose your clothes, go to a lounge, club, restaurant, bowling alley, hiking, movie - WHATEVER - and actually meet people to fulfill your needs.
Guys who are on Manhunt, Adam4Adam, M4M, and GRINDR are there for sex - because they are SEX sites. If they want friends, go to Friendster, Gay.com or FindFred. Not only will they not find what you are looking for (other than sex) on a sex site, they annoy everyone else. They take up real estate for those who are interested in hooking up, and they are usually extremely rude should someone try to hit on them. And the reason they get hit on, is because despite their bold statements of NO SEX, their photos are of their dick, ass, chest, and many times, their hole! If you are looking for friends ONLY, why are you posting your genitals and legs-spread asshole as your lead photos?
In the end, results come from being in the right place at the right time. And if you are hungry for Chinese food, you should go to a Chinese restaurant.
the problem is that so many men forget that sex is not the end all be all of a gay relationship, the thing is relationship is the key word here and that takes soooo much more work wether your straight or gay, It’s work that with the way society view’s relationships in general may or may not be more than we are willing to give of our self…here is the major question we should ask, is there life out side of an orgazium
By juan rosales on 05-24-2010
“Why do you rob banks? they asked the bank robber. “Because thats where the money is!!” Duh!
Yes, right place, right time ...but more importantly, right frame of mind. Easier said than done. I think a lot of guys will put out, if only for the possibility of being held at night. Women are guilty of this too. Its a basic human need. I don’t think there is an easy answer, but perseverance and a fun attitude goes a long way. I personally find the buddy system the most productive, but that too takes effort. My .02.
By HippyjockDC on 05-24-2010
You left out that the guys who are posting “not looking for a hook-up, relationship only” are always the ones posting the photo of a hard-on or a butt in the air.
By Hell's Kitchen Dude on 05-24-2010
Yeah, I love how on GRINDR guys are “just looking for friends”, yet send you a photo of their butt. If that’s what they do with “friends”, what happens when they want sex?
By Brent on 06-08-2010
I completely disagree. One man’s “sex site” is another man’s “true love” site. I’ve met great guys to both date and hookup with on all of those sites. Look for what you want and ignore what you’re not interested in? Why is it so hard to just ignore?
Besides if they were purely sex sites then why would it even be possible to put “relationship” down for what you’re looking for. I’m just saying…
By S on 06-16-2012